Does My Confidence Offend You?

During a FaceTime call with my brother and mom, I shared with them some issues I came face to face while at work. My brother is the funniest person I know, from time to time he will drop a good nugget of wisdom. While we talked he said, “Deion Sanders said, “Don’t allow my confidence to interrupt your insecurities.”A word was definitely given, you can WATCH for yourself.

I have deemed Deion Sanders as my uncle in my head since he was on TV years ago with his family. He shares such inspirational quotes and conversations this one wasn’t different, I had it on repeat for the past two weeks. Watching this video sparked me to think about my interaction with a colleague which made me ask a deeper question, “Does my confidence offend you?”

Confidence is truly a superpower guiding you to reach every goal, overcome your obstacles and embrace new opportunities. Your confidence gives you the ability to take risks, stand up for yourself, and believe in your abilities. When you're confident, you radiate positivity and inspire others around you.

Growing up I never claimed to be confident. I struggled daily with low-self esteem. It was daily check-ins with myself caused me to build my confidence skill. I wish I was born with a strong confidence skill the confidence needed to developed and nurtured over time.

There has been so many moments when I had to personally facing fears, pushing your boundaries, and learning from my failures. So, if you're confident, it's a testament to your hard work and determination.

As I am working on my own skill of being confident over the years it has baffles me when I come across those who are threatened by my confidence. Not everyone admires confident people. Here are a few reasons I believe people lean in the lane of being uncomfortable.

Insecurity: People who lack confidence themselves may feel threatened or envious when they encounter someone who exudes self-assuredness.

Misinterpretation: Confident individuals might be perceived as arrogant or self-centered, even if that's far from their actual character.

Cultural Factors: Cultural norms and expectations can play a significant role in how confidence is perceived. In some cultures, humility is valued more highly than self-assuredness.

Past Experiences: Past negative experiences with overly confident individuals can color one's perception of confidence in general.

There is an intersection of balancing of confidence and humility when you may come in person with someone who is threatened by your confidence as well as how you navigate your confidence.

We can learn to listen actively, learn to celebrate others, be willing to take feedback and continue to walk in authenticity.

Confidence is a powerful tool that leads to a fulfilling and successful life. Your confidence might very well bother some people, it’s essential their reaction is rooted in their own insecurities and past experiences.

Instead of letting the question, "Does my confidence offend you?" hold you back use it has a launching pad for self-reflection and personal growth. Embrace your confidence, but remember to balance it with humility and empathy for others. In doing so, you can inspire those around you and create a positive and supportive environment for everyone to thrive.