Celebrating the Small Wins!
I remember so vividly the levels of anxiety I felt receiving a progress report in school. Even though this was to determine ways I thrived, it also provided a way to show my areas growth, panic always showed up when I had a progress report. May it was due to my negative self talk I had on repeat in my mind or the fact I was my toughest critic either way I hated progress report moments in school.
The unlearning of this mindset followed me in my adulthood. I have always been getting high on the idea of always being better than I was instead of taking a moment to celebrating the small wins. My focus was always how I missed the mark needing to better next time. Over the past couple of years of creating a new normal from a pandemic, to grief, to life just life’n it was time for me to create a relationship with how I celebrate my wins.
Prayer and therapy has been a constant in my life for the past two years I am thankful for both. My therapist challenged me during a session. As I zipped past all of this things I was changing, overcoming and doing different. She stopped me making me pause to acknowledge my progress. I must admit it was quite difficult for me. Sitting for a moment finally with thee tightest of lips I said, “Good Job Jee on your progress.”
Being my toughest critic this was both me being vulnerable and uncomfortable. In order for true growth to happen one must do what makes you most uncomfortable.
After really sitting with my progress I realized my wins were more than small they were big wins for me. Learning to say NO without an explanation, WIN! Learning to show up for me when it has always been about everyone else, WIN! Learning to truly listen to my body and rest, WIN! Realizing that my rest isn’t a reward its necessary, baby a WIN! God sustaining my mind while my heart was and is constantly breaking from grief, a sho’nuff WIN!
Again I whisper to myself, ”JeeJee you have been doing some amazing things, your progress report is looking good girl! "
You deserve a moment to celebrate your wins. You deserve a moment or two to reflect on your own personal growth. You have neglected you long enough. In the words of Mama Dee, “I deserve!”
Take a moment to jot down 5 things to celebrate your 2022 wins. Big or small write them down. You made it through that tough moment at work, you created a plan to meet your goal, maybe you worked out beyond the 10 days you normally do. Girl, celebrate it.
My point is don’t ever overlook what you have already done. Believe, trust, and don’t compare your progress with those around you.
Just in case you need someone to cheer you on, “You Got this Girl!”
Take a moment to smile, you made it through a rough spot. Smile because it’s over. Smile because sweetie you are on to bigger and better things.
You are doing a great job! You are enduring the toughest of times with grace and humility. Dream the biggest dream, the sky is the limit! Never ever forget with every step, Girl Be You!