What I Need to Unlearn
My goal has to lead with intentionality in what I share with others. My lessons learned have been both overwhelming and valuable.
We are so busy learning we miss out on what we need to UNLEARN.
Here is what I need to UNLEARN so that I might be better with each passing moment.
I must UNLEARN my love for Anxiousness.
I grew up constantly moving quickly, constantly thinking of the next move, thinking of all of next expected outcomes. What will happen if I move this way? What will happen if I move that way? Sounds like a lot right? That's because it is. My mind is always running. This year I choose to unlearn this pattern of anxiousness in every thought, every conversation, every new project. Everyday is a challenge to choose peace instead of anxiousness. I have to recognize what causes me to behave this way, what I need to change. I have to remind me to CHILL OUT!
I must UNLEARN putting off my need to Create.
There is a feeling of sheer love, a warmth in my heart that can't be explained when I get in a zone to create. Writing, talking with clients to create strategy, journaling or planning an event. It honestly makes me feel so free in my heart. I become lost for words in explaining that feeling. Follow me this year as we go back to the thing that makes your heart smile, go back to the place where you feel most alive.
I must UNLEARN my need to make others happy.
​As the oldest child I am prone to fall into the trap of making those whom I love happy. Yes, I get it, "Girl you too grown to want to make people happy." I hear you even as you read this. The reality is this is a constant battle of unlearning for me. I am hit with waves of, " I can CARE LESS what they think." Then I am hit with you can't be like that all the time. Where is your compassion? Where is your concern and love? I am unlearning to rid myself of an unbalanced lifestyle. It is so important for both me and you to embrace a healthy balance for your life. When there is some sight of balance it will help you to be clear of the next step in your journey my dear.
I must UNLEARN overthinking.
I have never been in the business of writing sketches, sitcoms or movies. I can come up with a story or soap opera all in my mind. I create a negative rabbit hole which not a shred real evidence. I will create a timeline of events get upset, create an argument in my mind, find the ways to win with facts and evidence. Chile, do you know how much work that is? Do you know what that does to your mind? Do you know I am tired just typing this. This is no way to live. While you are busy writing these negative narratives you don't ever enjoy the moment. Unlearn your negative, Nancy!
I must UNLEARN that my past is terrible.
My past is not terrible, My past is not terrible, one more time my past is not terrible. My past experiences be that good, bad or ugly it was all apart of my next steps to my future. My past has taught me how to continue to be a student. My past has prepared me for the success of where I am now in my life. My past is the launching pad for the growth for me. My past helps me share a story with others so they to can see their past as a place that groomed them for this moment.
While we are busy learning so much from this past year, it's my hope we UNLEARN our bad behaviors, unlearn the thinking that has not been healthy and unlearn the habits you think are good for you but are only leaving you empty. The path to UNLEARN isn't easy, yet UNLEARNING is necessary.