Heavy on, “Okay Girl!”
If you have been here for a while you know I have spent much of my life mastering the art of bending over backwards to please people in my life. At one point in life my goal was to ensure everyone around me from friends, family, co-workers and bosses were pleased with my presence and choices. Wild right? Before you get to judging me ask yourself, “Who in your life are you attempting to please?” “Whose life have YOU invested in more than you have invested in YOU?
During the PODCAST this week I share about how I had to learn how to the mindset of choosing to people pleasing, it takes so much work both internally and externally. You can find yourself spending so much time invested into other people’s business that it will weigh you down. When we do this it shifts our focus from ourselves to focusing solely on other people, which allows their situations to take priority in your life. I used to take pride in learning so I would be equipped to share my findings with people I came in contact with. To essentially be a master problem solver. This approach had me out here teaching unwanted lessons, having draining conversations, attempting to uplift people out of pits they wanted to stay in.
What I had to come to terms with was the lessons I wanted to teach weren’t accepted cause they didn’t ask for them. I had to reassess my investment on conversations and interactions that simply drained me as I was seeing no return on my investment.
This year in particular has ya girl out here taking real inventory on my life. One thing is certain in this life, there are many things you can get back what you can’t get back is YOUR TIME! You can’t get back the hour on the conversation that went nowhere, you can’t get back the time you wasted on making someone believe you when they are dead set on their own opinion.
In order to save your life, your mind, and your time, I’ve learned the best response is, “Okay, Girl.” Personally I have tried it the best response often is, “Okay, Girl”
Choosing to embrace the "okay" mindset in moments felt like freedom. I felt so much stress leaving my body when I let go the desire to teach, help or step in for that person. My “Okay, Girl” felt like I was so aware of my choices instead of being so anxious when I didn’t show up for others in hopes they would see me as a great person.
What I had to completely understand is my ability to say, “Okay, Girl” is realizing everyone has their own battles, challenges and insecurities. In relationships, the "okay" mindset cultivates empathy and understanding. Your “Okay” isn’t an attempt to overlook, become dismissive it is truly to respect while respecting the boundaries. I believe your “Okay” is a way to not impose your expectation on others we take the time to appreciate where people are in their lives.
I believe by embracing the "okay" mindset is an invitation to live authentically, embrace imperfections, and cultivate a deep sense of self-acceptance. By choosing to say "okay" to life's uncertainties and complexities, we embark on a path of profound personal growth, resilience, and contentment.