I leaned heavily into the idea of being the “Strong Black Woman” In the face of adversity I taught myself never to cry in situations that hurt me, broke my heart and even crushed me. I wanted to never look weak so I would endure and remind myself I’m strong enough to handle any situation simply proving my strength.

It’s important to note that the act of taking a nap has not always been celebrated within the black community especially black women. In fact, there has been a long-standing stigma surrounding napping, with some black women being accused of being lazy or unproductive if they choose to take a nap during the day.  Recently I took a step back to catch my breath and figure out how I could untangle myself from this rat race I have been in.

Hitting rock bottom can impact people in many different ways . In my moments of rock bottom I felt as if I had lost complete control of my life. Priding myself on being in control of everything and everyone, my rock bottom moments proved I was so wrong. My rock bottom brought about a powerful moment of clarity. Although difficult, brought about much sadness, and frustration rock bottom pulled me in the direction of positive change and personal growth.

Jee what are you afraid of? What is the thing that makes you shake in your boots? What is it? Why are you afraid of shining in your own right? What is making you afraid to walk in the direction of your dreams, not everyone else’s dream for you?